Coping with anger while grieving 

 

If the death of someone you love has left you feeling angry or bitter, you might find it helpful to try the following techniques.

Consider it. Is anger a stand-in for more painful emotions, or does the situation warrant it? Do you feel abandoned or afraid? If so, could you enlist support from others or spend some time thinking about your fears and putting them to rest? It might help to share your feelings in a grief support group and learn how others have dealt with similar feelings.

Express it. Set a side a safe time and place each day to defuse angry feelings. Some people yell in the car with the windows rolled up. Some find stress-relief techniques like meditation or yoga helpful. Others find release in punching pillows or in spurts of strenuous activity. Think about options for releasing anger, and plan how to express it safely when it crops up. Sometimes writing about situations that make you feel angry can help you focus on what you are really feeling beneath your anger.

Explain it. Tell others how short-fused you are right now. If you know you stepped over the line, apologize. Most people will make allowances.

 

 

         Discover the Secrets to Improving your                         Balance and Maintaining your

                         Mobility right now!

Dear Reader,

Every 11 seconds an older person in the U.S. is treated in an emergency room for a fall-related injury.

When we’re children falling is just a normal part of life. You dust off your knees and get back up without thinking about it. But when you fall as an adult, it often results in life-changing consequences. Falls aren’t just responsible for minor injuries; they can lead to extended nursing home care, disability, or even death.

The good news is that many falls can be prevented. For the best ways to maintain your balance and avoid falling get Harvard Medical School’s new report Preventing Falls. This information-packed guide from Harvard’s expert physicians explains:

·         Why we’re more likely to fall as we age

·         The specific risk factors for falling

·         The “right” way to fall to reduce your chances of injury The secrets to preventing falls — from improving your health to exercises that improve strength and balance

How your body keeps you balanced

As you’ll soon learn in Preventing Falls there are two basic types of balance. Static balance gives you the ability to stand up without falling over, while dynamic balance allows you to anticipate and react to changes as you move. Four systems in your body work together to help you stay balanced:

·         The central nervous system coordinates movements by sending motor signals to the eyes and muscles

·         The vestibular system of the inner ear sends messages to the brain about the position and movements of your head in relation to the ground

·         Your vision helps your balance by showing you where you are in relation to other objects

·         And position-sensing nerves — called proprioceptors — embedded in muscles, tendons and joints throughout your body help you move around without stumbling or bumping into things

·         What do some medications, inner ear problems, foot pain, weight changes and vitamin D deficiency have in common? They can all affect your balance.

·         And when you’re an older adult, being just the slightest bit off balance—even for a moment—can lead to a debilitating fall.  In fact, an estimated 1 in 3 people over 65 will fall each year. Every 19 minutes, an older adults dies from a fall-related injury. Women are more likely to fall than men, but men are more likely to die from a fall than a woman.

·         The good news? Many falls are preventable!

·         Keeping your balance and preventing a fall just got easier, thanks to a new report Preventing Falls, from the experts at Harvard Medical School. This information-packed guide explains how your body works to keep you balanced, and the health problems, medications, and home-hazards that can set you up for a fall. And it provides specific ways to help you improve your balance and maintain your mobility.

·         Discover the reasons most people fall.

·         Knowing what causes most falls, is one of the best ways to prevent them. This guide explains why some blood pressure medicines may make you more likely to fall, how cognitive impairment and dementia can lead to balance problems, and how even small changes in the way you walk can increase the risk of falling.

 

One of the Best Motivational Speeches Ever

By: Arnold Schwarzenegger

 

I'm here to talk about success.

The first rule of success is to have a vision you see if you don't have a vision of where you go and if you don't have a goal where you go you drift around and you never end u anywhere.

I mean as you know I was born in 1947 in Austria after the second world war so I was very fortunate that I stumbled under my vision and I didn't really like Austria when I grew up.

I couldn't wait to get out of there i couldn't see myself becoming a farmer or a worker in a factory or anything like that even though my parents wanted me to stay there and have a normal life but that was their vision not mine my vision was totally different i felt that i was born for something special for something unique for something big then one day i went to school i remember was 11 years old and they showed a documentary about America there they showed this documentary the huge skyscrapers the high rises the huge bridges the six lane freeways and all of this stuff in this missive that's where i want to be i don't want to be around here with these little farm houses and these little buildings i want to be in America one day after school i walked by a store in graze so i went inside and i looked around and then i saw a magazine there's a bodybuilding magazine that had Reg Park on the cover reg park was then a three-time Mr. Universe and i saw him on the big screen as Hercules i read that and i said to myself wow this is the blueprint for my life.

This is exactly what i want to do i want to become a bodybuilding champion just like Reg Park i want to get into movies just like rich park and i want to make millions of dollars and be rich and famous just like Reg Park.

Do you know how great it felt that i knew where i was going imagine the majority of people don't know where they're going i knew where i was going that I'm going to become this bodybuilding champion just like him so it was just a question of how do you do it i was so relieved because when you have a goal when you have a vision everything becomes easy so people always ask me when they saw me in the gym in the pumping iron days.

They say why is it that you're working out so hard five hours a day six hours a day and you have always a smile on your face and i told people all the time i said because to me I'm shooting for gold in front of me is the Mr universe title so every rep that i do gets me closer to accomplishing that chord to make this core this vision turn into reality every single set that i do every repetition every weight that i lift will get me a step closer to turn the score in the reality so i couldn't wait to do another 500 pound squat i couldn't wait to do another 500 pound bench press i couldn't wait to do another 2 000 reps of sit-ups i couldn't wait for the next exercise with the age of 20 i went to London and i wanted to miss the universe contest as the youngest Mr universe ever and it was because i had a goal.

So let me tell you something visualizing your goal and going after it makes it fun you've got to have a purpose no matter what you do in life you've got to have a purpose.

74 percent hate their job in America now there's not much different when you come to Europe the majority of people don't like what they're doing because they're really not doing it

because they didn't have a goal and they followed the score they just aimlessly drift around and then all of a sudden if there's a job opening so they get their job because you have to work but then when you work it's a chore it's work.

It's not fun so if you think about only a quarter of the people really enjoy what they're doing in life that is unbelievable if you think about it so i felt so blessed that i knew what i was doing it's like a medical student that studies and knows he wants to become a doctor you know where to go and the same thing is also in politics i remember that in politics i had a very clear vision.

That i will be the leader of California this is as far as i could go because i was not born in America so i could not run for president so being the governor of the fifth largest state of i should say the largest state the fifth largest economy in the world was for me really the ultimate title the ultimate accomplishment in politics so even though people came up to me and says why don't you go and run for something smaller you're never gonna make it i ran for governor and then two months later i became governor of the state of California.

Again because i had a very clear vision what i'm gonna do with California so that's rule number one have a vision rule number two is don't listen to the naysayers don't listen to the naysayers everything i ever did the thing that they heard out of people's mouth was that's impossible that can't be done or no that is exactly what i heard and of course i proved to the people that it can't be done so whenever someone said to me it can't be done i heard it can be done when they said no i heard yes and when they said it's impossible i heard it is possible.

I'm a strong believer what nelson Mandela said that everything is always impossible until someone does it well i'm gonna be the one who said to myself I'm gonna do it and i'm gonna show it to them maybe it has never been done before that's perfectly fine with me but I'm gonna do it and i did not listen to the naysayers it's all about the hard work that you put in i said i must have been bodybuilding i worked out five six hours a day i'm gonna do the same thing now for acting and of course i went to college to study English.

I studied the accent removal acting classes and all of this stuff all day long i worked and i worked in the work and within a short period of time i made one movie called Hercules in New York which of course went right into the toilet but it didn't discourage me i still had the same vision and then all of a sudden i did streets of San Francisco.

I did stay hungry and pumping on and the villain and then all of a sudden i was asked by dino de laurentiis at the universal studio to star in conan the barbarian and after i did conan the barbarian the director at the press conference said to the press the director was john millius he said to the press if we wouldn't have had arnold we would have had to build one so think about that the very body that they said can never be sold because the time is wrong.

A few years later I'm doing Conan the barbarian and it was the number one hit at the box office when it came out in the summer of 82.

Think about that and the director says if we wouldn't have had his body we would have had to build one so all of a sudden my body became an asset not a liability and the same thing was with terminator after we were finished filming terminator im cameramen said to the press if Arnold wouldn't have had that accent and talked like a machine i think the movie wouldn't have

worked so think about that the body and the accent that they attacked was an asset but i didn't listen to those losers i didn't listen to them at all it's just the reality of it is that you cannot listen to the naysayers so this is a very important lesson for all of you so when someone says no this is a stupid idea you in your mind you don't have to say but your mind to say this of you you saw what do you know you.